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I Just Want a Baby

January 4, 2016

My dad doesn’t have a sister.

My parents don’t have a son.

My husband doesn’t have a brother… and neither do I.

My grandmother never had a daughter.

Neither of my nieces have a sister.

My sons don’t have a sister, which means that I don’t have a daughter and neither does my husband.

But, you guys.

I think we are all going to be okay.

The internet does enough to make us feel inadequate……*cough*pinterest*cough*…. and if that isn’t hard enough on our self-esteem, there are the articles that go viral i.e. “Ten Reasons Why I’m So Lucky To Be a Mother of Sons”, “The Joys of Raising Daughters”, “5 Things Only Moms of Boys Know”, “….. and the list goes on and on. And I’m guilty. I shared one of these very posts on my Facebook page and was so proud that I was in the “mom of all boys club”. That my boys were going to use their endless amounts of energy to take care of my when I am old. But then I got to thinking, how is this post going to make a mom of all girls feel? Will they be left in the dust when they are 85? My point is, we can’t All have it ALL. Yes, some people have sisters, brothers, daughters AND sons, but for those of us who don’t, do we really need to make each other feel bad about this?

Do I really need to be reminded that I might never get to adjust a tutu, or fasten a prom dress, or pass down my jewelry, or step foot in the pink, sparkly section of Crewcuts and buy things like this?

Does my husband need to be reminded that he will never be privy enough to give the Father-of-the-Bride speech and dance with his daughter on her wedding day?

Yes, I am pregnant and because I have all boys I keep getting the question, “Are you hoping for a girl?!!!”

The truth is……yes, having a daughter would be amazing and life changing. But am I hoping for one?

No.

When we decided to have a 4th child, we decided to have one because we just wanted a baby.

i just want a baby

And you can bet that we will love whatever kind we get.

  • Megan
    January 4, 2016 at 11:06 pm

    This caught my eye just because gender is kinda a sensitive subject and people can really be obnoxious about it. Great post! Love it! I’ve heard a lot of stupid comments implying having one of each is better. Each family is different and that’s the best!

    I just try to ignore those people. I’m endlessly thankful for my healthy & happy sons!

    Congratulations on baby #4!!! You have a wonderful family:)!

  • Kamsin
    January 8, 2016 at 7:01 am

    Love this. It’s human nature maybe to want what we don’t have. And maybe those posts about having all boys aren’t meant to make the moms of all girls feel bad, so much as to remind the moms of all boys to be grateful and not waste emotion on wishing things were different. But I think it’s ok to want a girl when you don’t have one. Your feelings are your feelings. I guess the trick is to still be happy if you don’t get what you want and love the socks off all your boys. Sounds like you’ve got it sorted.:-)

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