I always love the fresh start that January brings, but making hard and fast resolutions has never really been my thing. Generally speaking, I have a very “everything in moderation” way of life and there is nothing in my life that needs drastic change or remediation (or so I think). But as I reflect back on my year, I can pick out a million things that didn’t go perfectly or match the standards set in my own head (likely standards set by what somebody else is seemingly doing better). When I think about the big picture, I’m not so sure everything is supposed to be flawless. Living with a bit of imperfection is what drives us to keep improving, and to keep learning, and trying and yadda yadda yadda. I thought it would be healthy, however, to acknowledge my imperfections and areas where I struggle. And whether or not I fix them, we will see. I rely heavily on gut feelings to guide me on where and what I focus my energy. But for what it’s worth, here goes!
To 2017 myself,
You are always trying to get things done. Enjoy more. Slow down. More eye contact, less “hang on a minute”. The house is never going to be fully cleaned despite how hard you try. And the laundry? The laundry is never going to be “finished”. Don’t waste your time on unattainable goals. Match socks more often (or don’t). Drink more water, eat more veggies, or in the very least sit down to eat. Stock up. A mom of 4 boys should never be out of milk. Try to make it to the gym if not for the stress relieving benefits alone. For goodness sake – FLOSS! Be more decisive. Say no and mean it. Spend more time being with your kids and less time doing things for them. Can dinner wait? Okay bad example. No! Dinner can’t wait, but, uh, matching socks certainly can. Watch the news every once in a while (E! News doesn’t count). Be more organized. Actually look at the calendar – that’s what it’s there for. Don’t take on too much. Allocate and conquer! If a 3 year old can figure out how to unlock your iPhone, he sure as heck is capable of packing snacks in his own lunch. Be more routine. If you wash the sheets every Monday, you never have to wonder when you washed them last (insert head to fist). If you think something will make you happy, save your pennies and just get it already (maybe not so much this, but this or these? Yes. Definitely.) Plan ahead, but don’t make promises you can’t keep. To my oldest son: I’m sorry, buddy, but we are Never. Gonna. Be. On. Time. These are just the facts. Drink more tea and less wine. Kidding. Life is short. Drink the wine. Let go of guilt – you are doing the best you can. We are all just doing the best we can.
And for the record, I don’t want you all to think I am something that I’m not. All of the words I write are real and honest and heartfelt, but the pretty pictures I share….yes they are me, but taken by a very talented professional who knows my best angle. I don’t curl my hair every day, I don’t wear cute outfits every day. I don’t cook perfect meals from scratch 7 days per week and I certainly could make improvements in the parenting department. My three year old wants me to color with him all day everyday. Am I going to regret that I didn’t make time to do this more? Probably. And that is what the new year, for me, is all about. Reflect and go with your gut. You know you best and you know the you that you want to be (<—- quote of the year so far). You heard it hear first.
2017… let’s do this.